“It's not how many times you get knocked down that count, it's how many times you get back up.”
- George A. Custer
That kind of emotional strength and resilience may feel unachievable, but in the words of Stephen McCranie, “The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.”
In other words: we’ve all been there. The important thing to remember is that you may not be able to control what happens, you can control how you respond. It’s what we tell ourselves in these challenging moments that will make us or break us.
Resilience is a state of mind. It means trading criticism for compassion. Resilience means accepting that a stumble doesn’t make you a failure, practicing an “attitude of gratitude,” and knowing that you are capable of reaching your goals. It’s like a muscle; work it, and it gets stronger.
Every challenge provides an opportunity to practice handling things as they come. Each moment offers a chance to make a better decision.
Struggling? Don’t panic. These helpful tools will help you refocus and get back on track.
Hit the Pause Button. Too often a slip-up on the road to wellness can throw us into a tailspin – paving the way for other poor decisions that only continue to hold you back. Should you find yourself struggling, take a moment to stop, breathe, and re-assess. Practice gratitude, reflect on the progress you have already made, and focus on taking one day at a time.
Re-Focus. Finding your “WHY” – the cause, goal, or principle that sustains you and keeps you moving forward – will keep you motivated through the inevitable curveballs both life and your disorder will throw at you. Whatever your motivation (perhaps simply to challenge yourself, to be a better person, parent, or partner), your “WHY” will help you stay focused and moving in
Reach Out to Others for Support and Encouragement. Our first response to a set-back is often to retreat; challenge yourself to reach out when you’re struggling. Call a friend or family member, or if you’re feeling anxious, try sending an email or a text message. Sometimes a few words of encouragement are all we need to get back on track.
The path to wellness and recovery is not linear. You will face an infinite number of challenges and roadblocks. You will stumble. Ultimately what matters isn’t the stumble – it’s how we rise to the challenge.